This is something I have struggled with for a long time. I must say, I have improved the past three years, since my move to California, but there’s still a ways to go. I accomplished this level of confidence through the people I surrounded myself with- positive, never putting each other down. That’s the key to confidence, as well as happiness. Saying those things, confidence also has to come from within. I heard a quote once, “Confidence is not walking into a room and putting others down to make myself feel better, it is about walking into a room with my head high, not caring what others think.” or something along the lines of that. I go by this quote daily. Confidence can be mistaken for arrogance a lot, which is explained in the first part of the quote. We need to realize the true meaning of confidence, before you can actually understand how to attain it. I was scrolling through tumblr and came upon this gem:
“How to Fake Confidence”
1. Hold your head high, and look others in the eye
2. Smile
3. Stop apologizing
4. Relax and be quick to laugh at yourself (but not at others!)
5. Dress in a way that indicates you have self worth
6. Use good manners (like saying please and thank you) as this is actually
a mark of self respect
7. Expect other people to believe in you, and to see and appreciate your
good qualities.
8. Before you know it, it’s no longer fake
This post seriously helped me understand what confidence was and how to obtain it, and I hope it will help you as well.
xoxo
